I thought I was losing my mind when I kept finding another woman’s things in my home, until the day I walked into my bedroom and saw the red dress that proved something was very, very wrong.
I was 29, Tom was 31, and if you’d asked me a year earlier, I would’ve said we were a pretty normal married couple. We had the starter house in the suburbs, the shared Netflix account, and the arguments about who had forgotten to buy toilet paper.
Beige builder-grade walls, sure, but I had picked the rugs, the throw pillows, the prints in the hallway.
I had split the down payment.
I had signed the mortgage.
I could say, “This is my home,” and actually mean it.
Tom worked from home. He lived in sweatpants-and-headset land.
I was out most days from nine to six at my office job.
That detail mattered.
Because then his mom moved in.
She lived a few states away and, honestly, the distance had been doing the heavy lifting in our relationship.
She called herself “old-fashioned,” which was code for “I think my son married the wrong woman, and I’m not subtle about it.”
To her, I was too career-focused.
Too loud. Too “modern.”Continue reading…